Sydney & Self Love

Growing up in a remote location meant that there was not a lot of people to compare myself with; and yet there were still plenty of people for me to feel inadequate and not good enough around. Not smart enough (because the one other boy in my class got higher marks), not fit enough (because my face became so so red after running even one lap of the oval) and definitely not pretty enough (because at year 6 school camp no one asked me to be their girlfriend)…

And then came boarding school… 5 kids in my school to 1500… Without dwelling too much off track and down the rabbit hole of my boarding school days; needless to say I was swamped by so much change and so many challenges around my identity.

I am proud to say that I did manage to stand out and shine my light in most ways that I was called to do however I still felt ‘not good enough’. I can distinctly remember that every year leading up to the school fete there would be auditions for the fashion parade. Never did I have the confidence to put my hand up, always did I want to feel worthy.

The path to my own self-love experience has not come from an outwardly appearance. It has stemmed from deep within my existence; from my soul to the connection with my creator and from the light I choose to see in every given situation. That light shone brightly in Sydney.

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Sydney; the land of models, movie stars, makeup and plenty of scope for comparison… Entering an elevator a woman looked me in the eye and said ‘you are a beautiful woman, are you a model?’. Completely out of the blue and unexpected she said this and it did feel good. It felt even better to be able to stand there and not defect but to say thank you.

This got me thinking. 20 years on from high school, two babies and plenty of personal development later and I realise that the journey to worthy comes not from any external validations but from the self love you can choose to give to yourself. This isn’t always easy but it is abundantly necessary.

When the comparison gremlins creep in – acknowledge them AND choose again. Because you are worthy.

Faith in February

Faith has been in the front of my mind this past month.. From running my first live workshop, to struggling through the dry times on the land – I have had to lean on my faith every day..

The ‘We Are Lovely’ workshop was ever so LOVELY! Any time women can gather in a gorgeous space, magic just happens…! To connect means to be seen and heard and this is what happened on the day. Women came from all around the region to listen in, to learn and whether they knew it or not, they came to grow! Because that is what happens when you choose to put yourself out there and be seen. It is not always easy to show up not knowing anyone, to a strange location that  takes a while to get to – but these women did – and they became so aware that on the other side of fear is glorious growth. The leaning in to that fear requires the faith. The faith that has the ability to tell you that it will all be OK – even when it isn’t – it actually is…

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When we are tested, when we are scared and unsure – those are the moments that we get the invitation to grow! I spoke about this; about the capacity of our intuition, about listening to our internal guide because, it too, is like a muscle and the more we use it and trust its strength, the stronger and more powerful it becomes.

I am a super emotional human; I cry, I feel and of course I worry about things – however I choose to practice having full-time faith in knowing that what will be will be and we will always learn and grow in some capacity.

The thing is, if you aren’t failing in life, you aren’t trying… failing is part of the journey. Commit to trying, commit to failing and TRUST that the faith will carry you through the lesson and into the Fabulous!

 

2019

I would dearly love to encourage you to come up with a word for 2019… A word that comes into your heart right away and represents what you want more of in your life this coming year.

My word, my intention, for this year is CONNECTION.

As a firm believer in the law of attraction principles, I know that the more energy and focus I can give to manifesting connection, the more connection I will receive back…

Makes sense, right?! So, what would you want that word to mean to you?

I want you to think about encompassing that word inside of your being and give it away freely to all whom you meet. Like you have an abundance of that thing and by giving it away, you will get more given right back at you.

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Some other example of words to embody this year might be: strong, powerful, kind, loving, friendly, caring, bold, courageous, curious… you get the idea – what do you want more of…?

The word connection for me is going to manifest in both the doing and the being… I will say yes to more things and connect, AND I will be more connected with myself and with my intuition.

This year is going to be another big one I am sure; both with international travel and adventure, along with structure and the grounding that is my daily life on the land home-schooling my kiddos (I am going to connect more with them too!)

Side note: I chuckle as I write this because my internet is having trouble connecting… I have had to turn it off and back on again, in an attempt to reboot it… oh the parallels… another sign that when things aren’t working out with your intentions, perhaps it’s time to stop, breathe, and think before starting again.

I hope this year brings you lessons, love and laughter – may you receive them with grace and curiosity…

 

Love & Strength,

Sig xx

the ‘ick’ factor

Don’t you just love learning about yourself… haha

I wish it was all ‘lovely’ but it’s not… and I’m kinda glad!

Did you read my last blog…? The big life decisions, changes and plans taking action. It happened, it’s happening, we are LIVING the changes and navigating the lessons as we go, literally! The boys and I are loving the distance education flexibility but most of all we are loving the time together and the discoveries about new topics AND about ourselves.

So here we are, cruising along, loving life and I start to feel ‘ick’… WTF! Why? I am loving life and all that it involves but I feel like there is something ‘missing’. And because I like to ask myself the messy questions and dig a little I found out why…

There is a new level coming… My soul is telling me that I am ready for growth and sitting in the ‘comfort zone’ is actually uncomfortable. So much so that there were tears, questions and a lot of resistance around my ‘whys’.reach.jpg

The time is now, it is always now because that is all we have. Let me be the lesson for you that if you truly want changes and growth you have to push through the comfort zone straight towards fear – because fear if what stands between us and amazing!

Let fear be your guide!

What are you being called to do? What is it that you have always wanted? When will the pain of the ‘comfort zone’ be more uncomfortable than the fear of pursuing your expansion…?

Reach up, lean in…

Sig xx

 

New beginnings, Old stories

I have recently made some big decisions; you know the ones when you really have to put your ‘big girl pants’ on and have uncomfortable conversations… yep – those kind of life-altering decisions.

So I quit my job, pulled the boys from main stream school and have immersed myself back into all the things that I love the most. Family, Farm and Fitness!

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Making the decision wasn’t actually the hard part; it was worrying about all the other uncontrollables… what would people think, would our parents approve, would the kids still like me, will it all work out…? Scary LIFE stuff!

However, despite the unknowns, the questions and even the doubt… my heart was telling me so loudly to go down this path that the annoyance of that continuous nudge spoke louder to me than the fear.

And so the ‘old stories’ came creeping in… the stories of conformity and of ‘fitting in’. The stories of ‘am I good enough’, ‘can I do this’… But they are just that – stories.

Why do we let the opinions others override our own intuition?

I encourage you to do what feels good; to do what feels right to you. Whether it’s quitting your job, putting your happiness first or deciding to start a new fitness routine – IT IS YOUR CHOICE.

Go on the adventure of LIFE!

The motto I just love for life is: ‘you win or you learn’

So, give it a good go and follow what your intuition already knows…

Sig xx

Your potential…

Ever have those moments when you look up at the sky and ask “Why? Why is this happening to ME?” I sure do, plenty of times (in one day!)

I wonder ‘why’ and then I immediately find the answer: GROWTH!

I have recently been tested; 3 weeks solo parenting, property manager, logistics co-coordinator, head coach, team leader, chef, cleaner, animal handler… you get the point – I have been tested, for sure, I have been tested! And you know what… things went wrong, it got tough and uncomfortable; I was stretched and challenged beyond my comfort zone!

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AND… It was all OK, even when it wasn’t, it was OK. Because: GROWTH!

Because, God (Universe, Spirit, Divine, whatever you want to call it) needed ME to learn the lessons in order to make me step further towards my HUMAN POTENTIAL! That’s right, we all are destined for growth, expansion and massive amounts of awesomeness – me and you, are on PURPOSE – we have a purpose here on earth and it is not to remain the same, or to give up in the face of adversity – it is to grow and evolve into the person that the world needs YOU to be!

Does that land with you…? You have to know that who you are is who the world needs – so next time you are faced with a challenge I want you to think – ‘this is making me the person that the world needs me to be’ – then go on and GROW because the world needs YOU!

Lean in to the challenges and live out your potential!

Sig xx

The body image blog

My, nearly 8 year old, son loves to ask me where my ‘6-pack is’… He also tells me that my belly looks ‘fat’ and that my muscles don’t look ‘big’ on any particular day, totally unsolicited…

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In years gone by this would have crippled me; possibly even made me cry if I was having a bad day and then I would go ahead and figure out how I could fit more exercise in or decrease calories somehow over the coming days… so sad and so silly right?!

But it is part of my journey and has lead me to now just seeing these comments for exactly what they are: words. My worth is no longer attached to how my body looks, performs or is perceived by others.

The reality is that it is no-one elses job to love your body, but your own. It is your lesson to learn, albeit a painful one at times…

Something to note is that although I have abs here in this photo, just last night I was totally shocked by the amount of cellulite I saw on the backs of my thighs… What matters in such moments is how you respond to yourself. Something like, “oh hey cellulite, I see you there. I am not totally overjoyed by you being there, but I love me so I guess today, on a random Thursday, this is how you are showing up and that is OK”

A powerful phrase I like to remind my clients is that: you cannot hate yourself skinny, but you can totally love yourself strong! If you love that – why not write it on your bathroom mirror to remind yourself!

You can love your body AND want to change it – that, my girl, is the key to lasting success and showing up consistently and committed to your healthy, super-charged life!

I can, you can, we can LOVE the shit out of ourselves inside and out all the while working on becoming our BEST inside and out…

 

 

What WE worked out

To be honest; there have been plenty of moments in my life where I wanted to give up and did actually give up. As a child I was never pushed or encouraged to really step out of my comfort zone or lean into my fear of failure. As a result I missed out on a number of experiences that would have perhaps made me a different person or even influenced the decisions that I made. I have since learned to embrace fear and failure… but it took time, loads of time.

As my fellow parents would attest, there are countless moments in our children’s lives where we want to protect them, guild them and lead them in certain directions away from pain. I struggle with how much to push and how much to nurture, do you?

Today was a moment of push.

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He did it; he ran the whole 4Km race. I was right there along side him, nurturing the self doubt that was yelling at him to walk. I was also pushing him; telling him that he had everything within him to achieve the goal he set out to achieve.

He learnt today that he could do more than his mind thought he could. He learnt that he could succeed if he just kept on keeping on. But the best lesson was the one that only when you finish what you set out to do do you actually feel: PRIDE! We really sat in the moment and felt all the feels of what it means to push though the struggle, run against the resistance and actually show yourself that it is possible.

So, I think that might just be the ticket… support, encouragement and mate-ship through the struggles, challenges and pursuits. We get to the feel the nurture and push towards the goal.

How can you support someone around you to achieve their next level?

Who can you reach out to help you reach yours?

Sig xx

If you can

Did you realise that ‘hiking’ is just walking…?

If you can walk, you can hike 🙂

If you can hike, you can explore!

If you can explore, you can learn…

And… if you can learn, you can GROW!!!

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Growth in all ways and in all walks of life is our purpose. It is my dream for you to grow into your highest potential so that I, and the rest of the world, can see YOU!

 

 

Do you every get that warm, fuzzy and aligned feeling whilst in nature…?

Lately, I have needed a tonne of walk time. Getting out and exploring can help me to process, ponder and change perspective to move forward into a brighter future. You can literally use walking (or in my case today, #cowcardio ) to move unwanted energy through you body.

There has been lots of posts, whispers and wonder recently about the moon, astrology and the massive energy shift that is happening in our universe at the moment – whether you believe in this stuff or not for me it has been a lesson in listening to my intuition.

Intuition is just like any other muscle; it is a skill set we have been beautifully gifted to guide us. It is that ‘gut’ reaction, that first ‘instinct’ or the soul ‘calling’ that our body tries so hard to tell us… do you listen?

If you are struggling with finding or listening to your intuition then I encourage you to unplug, immerse yourself in nature and take a hike 😉

All of what you need is already inside of you.

Sig xx

unraveling…

School holidays came and so did a sore throat, runny nose and a cough… You know how it is, you keep yourself together because you have to and then as soon as your body gets a chance to rest… boom! It really makes you rest.

And so, there I was scrolling through the ‘gram’ when up popped a post talking all about emotions and feelings. The post asked for willing participants to write down three emotions that they had felt in the past seven days…

Mine were: disappointment, relief and freedom.

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When we are forced to rest, to feel and to heal we have the opportunity to really feel all the feels and to process the necessary. This may mean wallowing in self pity, being still with the anxiety or being truly paralyzed by even the thought of those said feelings.

There is true beauty in the vulnerable; in the realness of life and all of the feelings it gives you. It is through these experiences that we grow; we grow through what we go through! I have enjoyed surrendering to the emotions and being made rest this week.

However, what has kept me from going totally stir crazy is my Radiant Rituals – my non-negotiables that keep my health and wellness goals on track. Even though I wasn’t able to perform killer workouts in the gym or practice my long-distance runs; I was able to walk, to drink loads of water, eat nourishing foods, sleep a tonne AND to spend time playing with my loved ones!

When we are forced to rest; use it to listen.

Sig xx